I’ve come to realize that raising children takes alot of effort and consistency. In order to simplify things, I took cues from my daughters’ classrooms. Surely, if 2 teachers can manage to have 22 kids on a schedule with smooth transitions (most of the time), I KNOW that I can do the same, after all I only have 2. And so the journey begins . . .
First I had to BREAK a key BAD HABIT:
- TV Time – As a working mom, I MUST HAVE HELP (I have no idea how I would manage without my mom aka Nana, she is a GOD SEND! Many have tried to steal her and failed). What people don’t realize is, help can be a blessing and a curse. My mom, as with most grandparents, caves easily and TV time was becoming obsessive in my house. One day, I realized that the more the kids watched TV the more agitated they were and the more they refused to go to sleep at bed time. So I decided to break the cycle THEN AND THERE! I made it clear to my mom that the girls were not allowed to watch more than 30 mins of TV and I made it clear to the girls that going forward, TV time was earned not given (initially they had to make a “happy plate” to earn TV time, I’ve since relaxed the rules but 30 mins remains intact during the week). I also explained why I was making the change (I explained their behavior and asked them if they used good or bad manners which helped them draw the right end conclusion) and gave them a heads up that the change was effective the next day. I reminded them of the plan the next morning and afteroon and realized that I was thankful to be at a stage where I could reason with my children and IT WORKED!!!!